The purpose of this website is to support YOU to stand in the Authority to establish the custom in your Circles to ongoingly exchange Emotional Healing Processes with each other. We have found that valuable sustainable changes truly happen by creatively collaborating in a consistent series of baby-step Emotional Healing Processes. You can do this!
An 'Emotional Healing Process' is: 'A facilitated Transformational-change experience that has a start, a middle, and an end'.
A typical Emotional Healing Process will require from 30 to 120 minutes start to finish.
The prerequisite for successful results in Emotional Healing Process is some degree of awareness and competence with Inner Navigation skills, in other words, being able to Consciously Feel.
Further along your evolutionary Path, certain deep Healing, Transformation, or AuthenticAdulthoodInitiatory Processes may put you in Liquid States for a few weeks or a couple of months while things reorder themselves. This is how it goes.
Possibility Management Emotional Healing Processes are not Cathartic. They are Cathectic.
This means that rather than using the Old Thoughtmap of Feelings and 'trying to get rid of those bad or negative feelings' (catharsis), we apply a New Thoughtmap of Feelings and consciously use the intelligence and energy of Feelings and Emotions for healings, initiations, and the evolution of Consciousness (cathexis).
Hints for Holding and Navigating Emotional Healing Process Spaces
Healing, Initiation, and Transformation are, by nature, both nonlinear and unreasonable. This means that a Possibilitator needs skills for creating and navigating unreasonable nonlinear spaces. Such skills are not taught in mainstream culture. Learning these skills requires that you take Radical Responsibility for shifting your Point Of Origin out of mainstream culture and planting it into next culture, where emotional healing skills are as central and widespread as using a smart phone is in mainstream culture.
Whether you are the Client going through the Emotional Healing Process, or the Possibilitator, who is Holding and Navigating Space for someone else to go through an Emotional Healing Process, you cannot know how the process will go.
If you know how how a process goes, then it is teaching, not healing... and you are a teacher, not a Possibilitator.
In Emotional Healing Processes, the Possibilitator is always at risk of Transformation.
Possibility is a Bright Principle, and one of the most valuable qualities in the Universe. It cannot be monetized, trademarked, or franchised. Possibility is a treasure that grows by giving it away.
There is need of thousands more skilled Possibilitators in every language, culture, and domain to help facilitate the massive personal, organizational, and cultural shifts happening around the world right now as humanity departs from the capitalist patriarchal empire in the same way a butterfly departs from a cocoon, and invents and inhabits next culture: archearchy.
Archearchy is the culture of archetypally initiated adult women creative collaborating with archetypally initiated adult men - the culture that naturally emerges after matriarchy and patriarchy have run their course.
Perhaps facilitating Emotional Healing Processes as a bridge to archearchy is your calling. If so, it is not too late to Start Over.
Below are a few hints about what an Emotional Healing Process is... and what it is not...
Creating And Navigating 'Emergent Space'
A Possibilitator Holds and Navigates an 'Emergent Space', that is, a Space - the qualities, necessities, and gifts of which - emerge unpredictably as you go along.
For this it is crucial to have an alert and initiated Gremlin serving you on a short leash at your side.
No Emergent Space remains the same from moment to moment.
This means a Possibilitator would be wise to do their own Emotional Healing Processes that drop their own 'emotional baggage' to the point where they are 'massless' (Unhookable) enough to make right-angle turns at light-speed.
This is radiant joyous work, something to truly celebrate.
Necessity Creates the Healing
Or, the answer to: "How can I hold space when I do not have the knowledge of a Trainer?"
When you are a Spaceholder for somebody else's Emotional Healing Process, it is NOT about you. It is not about how well (or not well) you think you are trained, how smart (or stupid) you think you are, how beautiful (or ugly) you think you look, how many distinctions you think you have (or don't have), or how well (or not) you think you can Navigate Space.
When you Hold Space for somebody else's process, it is about the other person's necessity to heal.
Let their necessity lead the process.
If you do not let what they actually need and can sustainably hold in their Matrix lead, then you are trying to force them to heal, manipulate them to heal, or rescue them, which is all Low Drama, driven by your hungry Gremlin. It is not an Emotional Healing Process. Trying to force your Client to heal or transform is not respectful of the person.
Instead, Be With your Client where they are, not where you expect them to be, hope them to be, want them to be, wish them to be, or think that they ought to be.
The Client's authentic Necessity calls in the appropriate intelligence needed to open a healing transformation Space for them, and the Clarity for which actions and distinctions are required to get there. It is all there within one arm's reach.
You are the Spaceholder. You Hold and Navigate Space. Use what is given. That's your job.
The Client goes through the process. It is not your job to go through the process for them.
You cannot go through the process for your Client. Trying to go through the process for your Client creates confusion and frustration for both the Possibilitator and the Client.
You navigate the space of healing in proportion to your Matrix and your Client's Matrix. And that is good enough. Good enough is good enough. Perfectionism is a disease from Modern Culture. Please go through the Emotional Healing Process to heal yourself from it.
The great news is that the people asking you to hold space for them have scanned you and they already 'know' (at an energetic level) that you can provide value for them. Otherwise they would go ask somebody else.
Here are further hints:
Learn to detect and trust your Client's actual Necessity. Do not let your Box, or your Gremlin, or your Parent Ego State, try to define your Client's Necessity. Ask about and Notice their degree of Necessity. Be with them where they actually are and with what they actually need.
Your Client can only take the healing step that is at their feet. Your job as the Possibilitator is to help identify and clarify that exact step for them. Confirm to them that they are AT THAT PARTICULAR STEP. Help them take that exact step.
No one can go through ANY Doorway until they have made ALL the steps that take them from where they originally are to within touching distance of the Doorway. You can be sure that the Client is AT THE DOORWAY when the next step they can take would move them through that Doorway into that next Space.
Until someone is ACTUALLY AT THE DOORWAY they CANNOT go through the Doorway. (Look around you right now. Find a Doorway that you see over there. Now, go through that Doorway from where you are. Can you do it? No. You cannot do it. No one can do that. You must be AT THE DOORWAY before you can go through the Doorway. This is an exact metaphor showing that any Client only go through a Doorway when they are AT THE DOORWAY! Imagining little mysterious magical-thinking positive-aphorism short-cuts is delusional, causing more harm than good, actually delaying healing or transformation.
Your job as a Possibilitator is to be so much in contact with your Client that you sense which exact steps are near enough in the Client's general vicinity that it would be possible for them to take a sustainable step towards that Doorway right now. Or, if your Client actually IS at a Doorway, then to accompany your Client in their transformational step through that exact Doorway.
The consequences of successfully taking a Client farther than their Matrix can sustain is that the Client must then choose between destroying the healing / transformation Process they just experienced with you, or destroying their life. Our experience shows that Clients do not choose to destroy their life. Instead they choose to destroy the healing / transformation Process, simultaneously building up a solid defense against trying such 'dangerous silliness' again, and definitely not recommending such things to their friends.
Learn to Radically Rely on E.C.C.O. (Earth Coincidence Control Office) that it is not a mistake that you have been put together with your Client now for this Emotional Healing Process, even if there are Voices in your head telling you that your Client's Necessity is greater than you can deliver, or less than your capacity. Simply do the job on your bench as best you can.
An Emotional Healing Process is NOT psychoanalysis.
Psychoanalysis has the intention of understanding why a person is the way they are. Understanding happens in the intellectual body, providing very little and very linear Possibility for Healing because emotions are not in the intellectual body. Emotions are in the emotional body!
Understanding can only take someone so far. Any Client talking to you has probably reached the limits of what understanding can do for them. This is why most of your early Single Coaching sessions with a Client will be about learning Inner Navigation, how to differentiate thoughts from feelings, how to distinguish feelings from emotions, how to tell the difference between anger, sadness, fear and joy, and how to Unmixing their Emotions.
Your Client's Box and Gremlin may try over-and-over again to bring them into the domain of intellectualizing. As the Spaceholder, your job will be to keep your Sword of Clarity at their neck and navigate your Client back to the domain of feelings and emotions where Healing and Transformation can actually happen.
If Healing is NOT understanding, then what is it?
The key ingredient for healing to occur is the pain (mad, sad, glad and scared) of a broken heart. As a spaceholder, your role is to make the pain visible. The pain is already there, you do not have to provoke pain in your client. Analyzing the problem (aka Understanding the Box) takes your client away from the pain. Even if you might feel safe when you understand, it will in the end, not help you or your client.
THE WORK IS NOT ABOUT UNDERSTANDING THE BOX, IT IS MAKING THE PAIN VISIBLE. "The more painful you can make it more chance there is for change."
Healing is taking on a new shape which the illness or dis-ease can no longer grip.
With a new shape, your Client can then create and experience new results in their Life.
An emotional healing process is NOT catharsis. Catharsis is blowing out, releasing the energy of feelings and emotions, so that they seems gone, out of our body. Catharsis provides no transformation, simply a release. In no less than one hour, the feelings and emotions will have built up back again in your 5-bodies.
Transforming alchemically emotions in Processes for growing up and healing is 'cathectic' rather than 'cathartic'. Cathexis is the process of containing, recycling, re-aiming, and consciously using Emotional Energies, in comparison with Catharsis, which is the process of expressing, expelling, trying to use up and get rid of supposedly negative, excess, or useless
The instructions for Cathexis are, "Hold the energy in. Do not allow your Gremlin to throw it away. Let the energy circulate around in all 5 of your Bodies. Build the Matrix to run this much energy through your Bodies."
What we have found is that Feelings and Emotions are not design errors from Gaia, but rather are precious resources of energy and information needed for fulfilling your Destiny and delivering the services of your Archetypal Lineage to the Village.
Specifically: Feelings are for handling things. Emotions are for healing things.
Then your Emotional Energy can be directed towards healing, Building Matrix, Authentic Adulthood Initiations, and Archetypal Transformations.
Healing Is NOT a Gremlin Feeding Space
An emotional healing process is NOT a Gremlin feeding space.
Therefore, it is not a Low Drama space. Therefore, it is not a space for your Client to blame, complain, gossip, undermine, triangulate. And it is not a space for you, spaceholder, to be an emotional garbagge can.
Your initiated Gremlin sits attentively at your left side (or the opposite side from your Sword hand) and you have already given him or her the assignment to detect the Client's Gremlin and inform you what it is up to.
An emotional healing process is NOT positive thinking.
Positive Thinking is a strategy of asserting that some beneficial condition is so when it is not so, assuming that your Fantasy World will somehow stack-the-cards in favor of your wish coming true is you can believe it long enough and hard enough.
Positive Thinking is a formula for self-deception. Telling yourself over and over that something is true when it is not true takes you farther away from reality rather than bringing you closer to reality.
A Possibilitator realizes that the closer you are bonded into reality, the more your actions automatically change the shape of the Universe.
The concept of 'being Re-Traumatized' can only make sense from the viewpoint of the Old Thoughtmap of Feelings, where feelings and emotions are regarded as 'bad' and are to be avoided.
Neither modern-culture therapists nor modern-culture Clients have upgraded their Standard Human Intelligence Thoughtware with regards to feelings and emotions. From the perspective of the Old Thoughtmap of Feelings, if a treatment for PTSD involves feeling anything, especially to feel an incomplete Emotion - since there is no way to distinguish whether the Client (or therapist) has upgraded their Inner Navigation skills - then the idea of feeling Emotions has the potential to unleash Emotional fears in brain-centered therapists.
Emotional Healing Processes using the Radical Responsibility context of Possibility Management originate in an entirely different framework and have an entirely different effectiveness from the processes of modern-culture's Freudian / Jungian psychotherapeutic context. There is no simple way to compare these two contexts.
What can be said is that after 45 years of Possibility Management's Emotional Healing Process work around the world, the concept of 're-traumatizing' makes no sense and has no basis in our experience.
In Possibility Management, Feelings are for handling things. Emotions are for healing things.
Coach for what they want
What do your Client want? What are the outcome they would like to see happen after your coachings?
That is the only place you have power, where you have transformational leverage.
Take your own assumptions out of the equation ("Of course, they want to heal", "Of course, they want things to change", "Of course, they want to take responsibility", etc...)
Coach for what the Client wants, not for what you want, or assume they want.
So you start with the question: what can I do for you?
It does not mean that you cannot inquire about what they want.
First, they might not know what they want. And they might not know, because they do not know what is possible. Then your job might be to paint the picture of what is possible for them.
For example: your Client might say 'I want to stop feeling angry like this', you would paint the picture of a new thoughtware about feeling where feeling Angry is fantastic!
Second, they might think they know what they want, but what they want is a Fantasy World. Such as I want to be happy (which includes the assumption: all the time) / I want my partner to never leave me / I want success (yes that is a fantasy world!) / I want to be safe / I want to belong / etc... and etc...
Your job might be to have them realize the impossibility of fantasy world to ever be satisfied. In addition, being clear about which Fantasy World your Client wants to satisfy gives you their 'x on the map' regarding which Ego State (Child/Gremlin/Parent/Demon) is contaminating their Adult Ego State.
They want to live in a Fantasy World? They do not want to decontamination their Adult Ego State Then probably you cannot do much for them. They don't want to live in a Fantasy World? And they want to decontamination their Adult Ego State? Well then, the work begins!
Those conversation tend to be extremely revelatory.
For The Client: Your Request For An Emotional Healing Process
If you arrange for someone to Hold Space for you to express huge Low Drama Emotions, nothing will change.
Merely expressing repressed, suppressed, or mixed Emotions is called 'catharsis' - trying to get rid of these bothersome ('bad') emotions.
Doing catharsis wastes the Doorway created by the opportunity of your emotional Reactivity.
Instead of intending to express huge Low Drama Emotions, change your request. Ask for a couple of people to Hold and Navigate the Space of an Emotional Healing Process for you!
Then they will Navigate the intelligence and energy of your Emotions for 'cathexis' - which is to use Emotional intelligence for Transformation.
Ask for an Emotional Healing Process:
during which something changes.
during which you see old Decisions or conclusions.
during which you experience your Hidden Purposes at work with its 'benefits' and real costs .
during which you see the Story Worlds you have been living inside of.
during which you can Shift Identity to a different self-experience.
during which you can relocate your Point Of Origin to a different source of clarity and power.
during which you can do a Self Surgery.
during which you can remove a Block.
during which you can reconnect to a part of yourself that you had previously lost or banished.
during which you can make and keep a Pirate Agreement to Practice or Learn or complete your project.
during which you can gain the energy to make new Experiments.
For The Possibilitator: Setting Up And Beginning The Process
Here are 3 STEPS to set up a safely-dangerous space for your Client to go through their Process.
NOTE: These 3 STEPS are the same whether you are working offline and in person in your house or office with your Client, or working online with a Client and a Coach who are spread anywhere in the world.
REVOLUTIONARY BREAKTHROUGH: It is a revolutionary discovery that any Circle of people (such as a Possibilitator Training Regional, a Gaian Gameworld, a Brige-House, a 3Cell, a Possibility Team) can make it their custom that at any time, any member can call upon any two other members to Hold and Navigate an Emotional Healing Process for them. The purpose of this website is to support you to have the courage to do this with each other in your Circles. Valuable sustainable change truly happens in a consistent series of baby-step Emotional Healing Processes as creative Collaboration.
Make sure your Possibilitator Toolbelt with your 13 Energetic Tools is strapped firmly to your waist, that your Gremlin is sitting attentively at your left side ready to inform you about your Client's Gremlin, and your Sword Of Clarity is in your right hand pointed at the throat of your Client to distinguish if their offers are Fair or Unfair (their offers will be Unfair...).
Prepare the physical space, by setting close to the Client's chair (or if it is an online coaching, ask the Client to bring): a box of tissue, a hand towel, and a buket. Additionally, you could arrange for a mattress to be available. Some process are better held when the client is laying down.
STEP 2. Click your Clicker one more time and Declare into existence your energetic Work Space - a golden cube that embraces both you and your Client (even if they are located on the other side of the Earth during an online coaching). Call your Bright Principles one-by-one into your work space (by saying them out loud or in your head and bringing them in with your Conscious Will). If you haven't distilled your Bright Principles yet, you can call in the Bright Principles of Possibility Management, which are: Love, Possibility, Clarity and Healing - for example. It can be perfect to tell your Client which Bright Principles you have called into this Process Space.
STEP 3. Ask the magic question: "What can I do for you?" then become an empty space of Listening. This question knocks on the door of their authentic Necessity. Stay in attentive connection with the necessity of their Being during the whole process.
The point of Emotional Process Work is not to 'empty the garbage can'.
The garbage can is bottomless - it is the Underworld. It can never be emptied.
We are not doing 'dumpster diving'.
This is not 'excavating'.
The point of Emotional Process Work is to free up the next layer of energy and attention for the Client's adulthood Presence.
The Possibilitator Holds Space for the Client to follow their Emotions back to their source in order to find the Treasure that is hidden there.
There are two main things you will be doing during an Emotional Healing Process:
Listen for and apply the Golden Keys that your Client gives you.
You already are enough to be able to do these two things.
They are explained below.
Navigate to the 'Liquid State'
Transformation and Healing (which here, I consider them similar) happens only if there is a Liquid State. Even with a Liquid State, it is not guaranteed that Healing will take place. And without Liquid State, it is guaranteed that no Healing will take place.
When you Client enters a Liquid State, they will feel something: Anger, Sadness, Fear or Joy or a Mixed Emotions. Navigates towards feelings and emotions. This requires that you (and ideally your Client) are on the New Map of Feelings where feelings are a neutral source of information and energy and where Feelings are different from Emotions.
Most of what your Client will feel are Emotions - which is a great news because they are the Doorways for healing!
If your Client is not familiar with the Map of 4 Feelings (and the Old and New Map of Feelings), then your Emotional Healing Process starts there.
Give them clarity and experiences to upgrade their thoughtware.
Then let them know that this Emotional Healing Process depends on them actually feel something. There are 4 Feelings: Anger, Sadness, Fear and Joy; and there are Mixed Emotions: Revenge, Shame, Guilt, Resentment, Jealousy, ...
Give their Feelings and Emotions a Space of extraordinary Clarity in which to be expressed and to be heard. Demonstrate how to excellently respect, listen to, and apply their Feelings and Emotions.
Use the 'Golden Keys'
Your Client will provide you all the Golden Keys you need to navigate the process, you don't have to come up with them. Golden Keys are the way out of the prison of their emotions. Your Client have locked themselves up in a prison of which the bars are made of their Stories entangled with their Emotions.
Your job is to pay attention for Golden Key and use them. Their two main ways to use Golden Keys: one is by using a Completion Loop, completing the communication, the other is to ask question to navigate to the source of the prison.
Client: "It is not okay for me to be angry".
That's a major Golden Key. They just revealed to you that they are stuck in a prison of not being able to feel angry, which means that over their lives, they have let themselves be abused, their boundaries be crossed, they cannot say what they want or don't want, they cannot be themselves, etc..
Spaceholder: "It is not okay for you to be angry." (Using the Golden Key with a Completion Loop).
Spaceholder: "It is not okay for you to be angry because...?"
Use Nonlinear Possibilities
In the context of Possibility Management, Healing is not an end in itself. Healing is an essential component of the path of creating and managing more and more Possibility.
Emotional healing processes in the context of Possibility Management are Possibility Making Processes. You can start the process by asking: 'What can I do for you?' or 'What Possibility do your need today?' These are High-Drama offers.
In indigenous cultures, healing and initiatory processes were traditionally delivered by the village shamans and the village initiators.
Modern culture long ago forbade authentic adulthood initiatory processes, and moved healing into the jurisdiction of university-trained medical doctors and pharmaceutical corporations.
In next cultures - that is, archearchal cultures - healing and initiation have had to re-originate themselves to emerge out of the context of radical responsibility and the context of archetypally initiated adult women creatively collaborating with archetypally initiated adult men.
This is absolutely NOT a throwback to the healing and initiations as contexted in indigenous cultures. This is a leap into new cultural territory that has never before existed on planet Earth. We can be very clear about this.
In indigenous healing, the great shaman comes to town, does his shamanic thing on the patients, and then leaves. The patient gives his or her authority over to the shaman, hoping to be returned to health.
In archearchal healing, the Client calls upon the Possibilitator or the Feelings Practitioner and begins their 3 Phase Healing journey. The Possibilitator creates and navigates an extraordinary space in which they empower the Client to take back enough Authority do the healing process on themselves. Afterwards, the Client often has increased their Possibilitator skills enough that they can then provide the same healing process for other Clients. The Possibilitator has the intention to Replace Themselves, that is, to empower as many new Possibilitators as possible. Archearchy is built out of circular gameworlds where resources are abundant and there is always more room for taking responsibility at the center.
In indigenous initiation, the initiators extract the initiate's Point Of Origin (or 'assemblage point' in Carlos Castaneda terminology) from the context of their mother and anchored into the traditions and ancestors of the village culture. This way the newly initiated 'adult' already knows how to plant the crops, weave the cloth, cook the food, build the house, sing the songs, give birth, and die. The initiate gives their authority to the traditions of the village culture. Such initiations function when the culture is noble and environmental conditions are stable. Neither of these is true in the 21st Century.
In archearchal initiation, the initiators empower each initiate to extract their own Point Of Origin from the context of their mother and father, their birth culture, their birth religion, the patriarchy, the 'linear life plan', and anchor it into their own center thus being Radically Responsible for creating their own lives.
Removing Blocks Is 'Banishment'
Removing Energetic Blocks.
Reconnecting to Inner and Outer Resources Is 'Retrieval'
Bring the Being back into the body
Guiding Self Surgeries
Trust replacement surgery
Re-wire Fear (and other feelings if needed)
3 Phase Healing
Losing Again And Again With The Client
Amanda Killen, [22.03.21] I just watched the film Dr. Strange and I was really hit with a revelation I want to share. There is a moment when his enemy says, "You cannot win."
Dr. Strange replies, "No. But I can lose again, and again, and again and again..."
He stays present in the moment of pain with his enemy....
Finally, staying in that world becomes too painful for his enemy who then becomes open for another possibility.
This was a revelation for me, about working with clients with resistance who are stuck in their own pain, and in blame.
Last weekend I had a client in my group who entered that state and has not been able to get out. I have been with the story that I let this person down, and now I see that if I had been able to have the patience to die and go in the pain with them and stay in that pain, I could have created clarity and perhaps they would have seen another possibility.
If I had had the willingness to lose again and again and again, instead of stepping out of that, perhaps another offer would have been possible.
I am referring to the willingness to stay with someone in their pain and simply stay there with them, not caring if I am 'killed', or look 'bad', or seem to 'fail' along with them as I go with them to that place... so that they become aware along with me feeling their pain. Then at some point I could ask the question, "Is this actually what you want? Would you like another possibility?"
I see how I have to pay full price, not only for myself but also for those who I am in service too.
I see how I did not do that, how I was not willing to die, and I am experiencing something like a struck shock right now about this.
I feel glad to express this. I am amazed how E.C.C.O. works, and that I saw the film and could realize this and share it with you.
Process Ending - The Wrap-Up
For example, let's say your Client discovered by following their emotions back to their source that they have been carrying an old decision they made when they were three to five 5 years old such as: "I cannot trust others because they will betray me."
One Healing Possibility is to offer your Client to make a new decision.
You might have the idea to offer to your client to make a new decision, such as, "I trust others."
From our experience, we've notice that making an opposite new decision does not work.
It does not work because it is too linear to counteract the old decision and only lands in the mind as a concept that can easily be forgotten. The Box and Survival Strategy is too strong and defended to be changed with positive thinking. Positive thinking is linear. Positive thinking happens in the mind.
A workable New Decision for the Old Decision example above could be: "I trust MYSELF to take care of myself around other people."
Give it a name.
Suggestions For The Client For Re-Entering Their Lives
To prepare your Client to shift Space out of your extraordinarily safe and clear Process Space to return to the unknown context of the Space of their ordinary lives, recommend that your Client create a re-entry buffer zone in time and space and context-shift for themselves. These details can help:
You did super. Thank you for your courage to trust us and to do this Process with us.
Some Processes are crystal clear. Some leave us feeling a little murky. Don't worry about whichever this Process was. This is how it goes.
This Emotional Healing Process was probably bigger than you might suspect.
Please give yourself free space to let the perturbations and reordering integrate.
Please drink double or triple the amount of fresh water you normally drink.
Please rest. Take naps. Take a long hot shower or bath.
Make some privacy for yourself. Take it easy. Try not to jump back into your daily busyness.
Take time off (from a few hours up to a day or two) to be in the natural world rather than in your ordinary life.
Walk around in nature for an hour or so.
Let nature nurture your newly expanded or reconfiguredBeing.
Do not make any major decisions about your life or career right away. Let things settle first.
DO NOT HESITATE TO CALL ME (US) if you have any questions or want to check-in about anything.
PLEASE GIVE US A COUPLE OF MINUTES OF FEEDBACK AND COACHING to improve our Spaceholding and Space Navigating for Emotional Healing Processes: What worked for you today? What would you have me (us) change to make it work even better for you? (NOTE: This is a time for Possibilitators to ONLY LISTEN. It is NOT a discussion time, even if you do not understand what the Client says. Simply write down in your Beep! Book what your Client tells you, then say, "Thank you!"
Please stay in touch to let us know how it goes, okay?
If this is an offline Process, a hug, lifting, or holding might be in order. In next culture - Archearchy - everyone knows that human beings need about five good long hugs per day to stay healthy.
STARR - Holding Space For Someone Who Is Learning To Feel
Some hints and distinctions about holding space for beginners in navigating their Emotional Body.
STARR - Boundaries (and Holding Space For Making Boundaries)
Some hints and distinctions about holding space for a client to make and hold a Boundary in their 5 bodies.
Watch Our Videos That Demonstrate How To Create Possibility In Emotional Healing Processes During Online Possibility Coaching Sessions
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Creating and holding a space of Adult Listening for another human being with your complete attention available to them can already be such a deep healing for your Client.
WARNING: as mentioned above, emotional healing processes are not a space for Gremlin activities. Therefore, being a space of listening does not mean being available for Gremlin complaining, gossiping, triangulating, and so on... If you suspect that their Gremlin are trying to use you for Being Right, or Making Someone Wrong, or Resentment, or Revenge.
Hints that you are listening to a Gremlin:
- Your Client is not using feelings in their communication. To shift the space, ask them to say at the beginning of each sentence: 'I feel angry/sad/scared/glad about... because...'.
- Your Client is not crystal clear about who is speaking right now. To shift the space, ask them the simple question: 'Which 'I' is saying this?Please be clear, instead of using 'I', say 'my Gremlin needs this... my Gremlin thinks this...'
Inner Navigating Anger-Sadness-Fear-Joy
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Distinguishing Low Drama
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Unmixing Mixed Emotions
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Follow Back The Emotions To Their Source
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As the Possibility Pirates say, "That's where the Treasure be!"
Old Decisions / New Decisions
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A Decision is a Commitment to a new worldview.
A Decision happens in all 5 Bodies simultaneously, not in the mind.
A New Decision changes who you are because it changes your contract with the Universe, which changes the shape of your Being.
After your New Decision you are the person who has the shape of someone committed to this new contract.
Navigate To New Levels With Completion Loops
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Hold and Enter Nonlinear Spaces
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Be With Your Client
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5 Offers For Intimacy
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Make Use Of The 9 Gaps
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Never Put Away Your Sword Of Clarity
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Identify And Name Survival Strategies
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Identify And Name The 18 Boxes
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Deepen Your Skills For Holding Space
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Deepen Your Skills For Navigating Space
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Explore Being A Possibility Coach
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Explore Being A Possibility Mediator
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Explore Being A Possibility Psychologist
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Expand Your Memetic Engineering Skills
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Explore Being A Feelings Practitioner
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Activate And Use Your Purpose Sniffer
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Dive Into Thoroughly Mapping Out Reactivity
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Dive Into Thoroughly Mapping Ego States
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Decontaminate Your Adult Ego State
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Decontaminate your Adult Ego State from your Child Ego State.
Decontaminate your Adult Ego State from your Parent Ego State.
Decontaminate your Adult Ego State from your Gremlin Ego State.
Stabilize in the Adult Ego State to enter the Extraordinary and Archetypal Domains of relationship and Possibility.
Do Your 11 Floor Processes
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There are 11 Floor Processes that you can deliver in your online-or-offline Single Coaching sessions... after you have done them yourself.
Distill Your Bright Principles
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Ongoingly Detect Hidden Competing Commitments
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Sew Up Your Brain Splits
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Bypass Mind Machines
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It is quite possible that long ago, in order to survive, your client installed a Mind Machine that disempowered their energy and intelligence so that those around them felt less threatened by their presence.
This website clarifies 9 kinds of Mind Machines and explains How To Bypass Your Mind Machine if you are ready.